
                         bodies-under-siege java chat
                                       
   the chat room has changed. now you can chat with other people about
   life, the universe, and si at
   
   [1]this Java/IRC chat.
   
   The link takes you to the Java version; to connect with IRC use
   
   chat.hosting4u.net
   
   as the server with port 7000.
   
   If you do not self-injure and never have, please respect the privacy
   of this support group and go instead to the [2]non-bus chat for
   friends, family members, partners, and other loved ones of people who
   self-harm. Thank you.
   
   If you're looking to trade software or get laid, don't bother coming
   into the chat. you will be kicked out.
   
   A few guidelines:
     * Choose a non-triggering nickname. People in the chat are at all
       levels of recovery and sensitivity, and some nicknames (bloodgirl,
       razorslash, slicemeopen, etc) will make people really
       uncomfortable. Pick something simple and neutral, and if you do
       choose a triggery name, don't be offended if you're asked to
       change it (because you will be).
     * Be respectful of others in the chat. If something being discussed
       is bothering you, you can ask if anyone else is bothered. If no
       one else seems to be, you can leave for a while -- the subject
       will change eventually. If the topic is bothering most of the
       people in the channel, then the people discussing it can be asked
       to take it to private messages (you send those by typing /msg ).
     * If someone asks you to take something to private messages, please
       respect their request.
     * Please remember that the people on the channel(in the chat area)
       mean well and that some of them may be as confused or hurting as
       you are. Try to be gentle as you interact.
     * If you really need to talk about something and there's a lot of
       general conversation, you might consider asking if someone could
       talk to you privately.
     * Personal attacks are not permitted on the channel.
     * Please don't go into the chat while you are actually harming
       yourself. It's okay to go in afterward.
     * Try not to give details or get graphic about your SI. Sometimes
       this escalates into competitions or makes people feel bad because
       they're not as "bad" as someone else.
     * Enjoy yourself, and relax.
       
   Thanks for helping keep the chat area a safe place.
   
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References

   1. http://buslist.org/chattest.html
   2. http://buslist.org/nonchat.html
   3. file://localhost/usr/home/llama/Web/psych/injury.html
   4. file://localhost/usr/home/llama/Web/psych/busfaq.html
